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Specialist disabled dating to meet single adult men and women who share your disability, condition or life challenge within a friendly vibrant disabled community. Soulful Encounters SoulfulEncounters. You may also want to a general online dating site like match. Does a spinal cord injury change the importance or nature of communication in a relationship? Most people you meet may know little or nothing about SCI. Does it make you wonder whether you can meet new people, get out and date, and have long term relationships?
How can you put people at ease so they can feel comfortable asking all those questions they are probably thinking about, and how can you be at ease answering them? When and how do you start talking about the physical side of SCI, such as bowel, bladder and sexual function? In this forum video, our "expert" panel of single, dating and married individuals with SCI share their experiences with post-injury dating and relationships.
Dating is hard enough in the best of times; after a spinal cord injury, insecurities about body image and doubts about one's desirability as a romantic partner can become a major concern. At our annual forum on Dating a quadriplegic guy and relationships-which fell on Valentine's Day this year-several people with SCI shared their personal experiences of coming to grips with their changed selves and making their way in the world of dating and mating after injury.
When Brad became paralyzed from the chest down after a motorcycle accident inhe went in an instant from being "close to 6 foot 4 and lbs. Getting comfortable with himself was an important step in being able to feel confident about dating. Brad's wife of seven years, Amy, had never met anybody in a wheelchair before him. As questions came up about what the future together might look like, Brad found that communicating openly about all the fears and questions they both had was the only way to make it work. This helped them get through the early awkward times as well as later when they decided to have children they now have twin babies, a boy and a girl, from in vitro fertilization.
Amy admitted she didn't know anything about paralysis when she met Brad. Reading it helped her come to terms with it on her own, and gave her specific questions to ask him later. David has had tetraplegia quadriplegia for 10 years. He has dated several women since his injury, and in the last year has been in a romantic relationship with Janna. He agreed that honest and open communication has been a key element in the success of this relationship.
Janna and David met when she started renting his downstairs apartment. I've never met anyone so fabulous.
I've never felt so cared for. When asked about their physical relationship, David answered, "With SCI you don't have to worry about performance anxiety. It changed the dynamics wonderfully. It's actually pretty liberating in a lot of ways.
Tricia sustained a T injury in a car accident 13 years ago, at age I had lost a bunch of weight, had a big bloated stomach from surgery, and I was paralyzed. I thought-who is going to want me? When she went back to high school after rehab, "everything was different. I couldn't drive for a year, I couldn't go out to the same places my friends were going. I was so scared to date and explain everything, all the bowel and bladder stuff-I hadn't gotten that under control yet.
How was I supposed to date someone? It was really hard. Most people don't get through life without experiencing a bad date or rejection at some point, and people with SCI are no different, except they can be left wondering-was it me or the disability? Sometimes you'll never know for sure, but Tricia painfully recalled the guy she dated in college who broke things off abruptly, admitting he couldn't handle dating someone in a wheelchair.
The flip side of this was men who were interested in her because of the disability. They'd come up with weird pick-up lines, like, 'Hey, so how are we going to get busy on that thing the wheelchair? Over the years Tricia has noticed a pattern in the kinds of people she's been in relationships with. They were either 1 "carefree types who just don't care" about whether she had a disability; 2 people who already knew someone in a wheelchair; or 3 people in the health care field.
Her worst date ever was at the movies with a guy she really liked. She hadn't had "the talk" with him yet-the one about the more private details of her disability-because she didn't want to "scare him off. I wanted him to get used to me first," she recalled. It was very awkward and embarrassing.
But you have to deal with that; it's the reality of my life, unfortunately. Like anyone else, Tricia has had "good relationships and bad relationships. Fast-forward to the present: she and her partner Dating a quadriplegic guy celebrating their six-year anniversary. We bought a house together last year. One of his earliest worries was, "If I'm in a wheelchair, how can she really love me? Maturity is another factor.
Tricia found that college-age men were more reluctant than older men to date someone who was "different" or perceived as having "problems," like SCI. They dated me for who I was as a person. Sometimes friends or relatives try to discourage a person from getting Dating a quadriplegic guy with someone who has an SCI. A man in the audience reported that the parents of a young woman he was dating after injury pressured her to break up with him. That was the first time I had experienced prejudice. It took me a while to understand that it wasn't about me, but about her family's issues.
On the other hand, a person with SCI can be the victim of his or her own stereotypes. This same man pushed away a loving relationship soon after his injury because he felt he was only "half a person" and unworthy of being loved. Ted said he has to regularly check his feelings of inadequacy about not being able to do the things he used to do. For example, "I hate it when she has to get out of the car and fill the gas tank.
I feel like people are giving me dirty looks. If anything were to smash our relationship it would be my insecurities. And the thing that keeps those at bay is communication.
For the most part, dating after injury is still dating. You date a few people before you find the right one. The wheelchair didn't have that much to do with whether a relationship lasted or not; it was all about personalities. What makes you happy? What do you search for in a relationship? And just go get it. It's that simple. For Ted, the SCI forced him to confront what was really important in life. He remembered mourning the fact that he'd never be able to ride a motorcycle again, something he loved doing.
So I thought really hard about what are the most important things to me and decided there are two things: the ability to laugh, and the ability to love. It's the best thing you've got. Nothing can take that away from you.
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